Dr Rob Dobrenski of Shrink Talk has an absolutely fantastic post on reasons why marriages fail. These are the seven he felt worthy of note:
- Marriage requires compatibility not just at the point of saying ‘I do,’ but across the entire life span.
- Assuming that marriage implies monogamy, the institution itself is counterintuitive to biology.
- There is far too much emphasis on ‘weddings’ as opposed to ‘marriages.’
- Many couples do not know how to fight fairly.
- Marriages [don’t] solve problems.
- People settle for less than what they want.
- Couples assume they are immune to reasons 1-6 and believe that hard work isn’t part of the deal. They think that love, sex, children or some combination thereof will be enough.
On the topic of marriage I found this recapitulation of John Molloy’s Why Men Marry Some Women And Not Others interesting (and a little ridiculous).